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Pay Attention to Social Media and Hate Your LIfe

Today, I will be writing from from my own experiences. I practically follow lots of persons on social media, I follow celebrities but not much because I believe they have a different lifestyle, I follow friends and sometimes strangers whom are mostly teens and whose lifestyle are more relatable to mine. And then I would always go online just to view and like their pictures mostly on Instagram. I see most of my  friends and sometimes strangers post admirable pictures of them on a vacation, on an adventure or in an expensive dress or most times hanging out in a nice restaurant on the Island. I'd be like "oh mine this is so cool, when will I ever go there". I would always wonder how they somehow get to live a good life ..I concluded that some persons just found themselves in the better side of life.  I would use that as a defensive mechanism; an excuse for being bottled up in my "I wish I was like them" misery.

Well that defense wall crumbled down when I saw some of my friends whom I clearly know that they are from the "basics" family also living big on social media. "Basics family" in the sense that they got the essentials not the luxury. That was when I decided that I was done. I began to reason, asking questions to no one but myself. I wondered if they watched the news, if they've seen how bad things, that you have to live with restrictions on spendings. I was like  "...aren't the things are hard bell being rung in their homes?" .

In no time, I found myself becoming an addicted Instagram freak, always going online to check on the latest posts every day. I didn't mind wasting my time and data watching their live videos, liking their posts and then ending the day with loads of questions on why I wasn't living that way. I never ceased to compare my life with others on social media. To top it all, I never had as many followers as they did.
I used to believe that they just had everything and were never sad and down like I was.

The worst of all was when my friends or some stranger would post their academic accomplishments, how they got an award in a their department at school, how they won a competition, how they got admitted in an institution outside Nigeria, and it looks as if I've been joking with my life all these while . I would be like " where am I getting it wrong?, are you sure I'm actually part of what's going on ?, or they're just in another planet ? 

Slowly, I was crawling into depression, I was sad and angry, not at anyone but myself. I failed to understand or see things more clearly, It never occured to me if they were living fake lives. And sometimes when I welcomed the idea, I immediately dismissed it, believing that I was just using it as an excuse for not working hard. But in reality, I was working hard, maybe not hard enough?.

Well later, I really don't know how but I thank God I did, I came to realize that not everything you see on social media is real. Some persons just try to paint a good picture about their lives so that you could admire them and they could somehow be popular. I found out that some persons are insecure and they just don't know how to face the harsh reality of life so they choose to swim in the ocean of fantacy on social media. They feel that they are small and want you to believe that they are not. Some of them might be having personal issues with themselves, wanting to go away and choose to make the world believe that they are fine. While some are just their real self on Social media.

I"m not saying that everything on social media is fake what I'm saying is that not everything are actually what they seem. You should NEVER compare yourself negatively to whatsoever person you see on social media. They are not YOU and you are not THEM.
It's high time you believed in your uniqueness, and that  you got no duplicate. You should learn to stop being hard on yourself, I know sometimes it feels as if things are not going well or as if you've been joking around. Just know this... As far as you just don't sit and fold your hands but you keep working everyday towards your dreams... One day you'll get that big break. Maybe it's not yet time, who knows... You are being prepared for something bigger, so don't feel intimidated by what you see on social media.

The real truth is the more you pay attention to the twists and turns on social media the more you hate yourself... It's best to stick to reality.

Drop your comments on your personal experiences too. I Would love to listen 

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