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The Truth 001


The main aim of starting this blog was to touch lives through experiences I've encountered. They include beautiful, painful, heartbreaking, exciting, adventurous experiences. No doubt blogging pays but honestly that's the least for now on my list. My priority is changing lives the little way I can. 
Today, 10th, October 2018, I started The Truth. The Truth mainly is all about my real identity, the real me. Using my life experiences and challenges as direct contacts to what you might have passed through or you are currently going through. 
My name is Ifeoma, I'm a Nigerian. I was born in Lagos state, but I currently reside at Anambra state because I'm studying at a University there. I'm from a middle class home where I had all I needed. My parents gave me everything I needed- not excessively-, the basic ones. Honestly, I never lacked. But maybe I did crave for things- expensive thing- like phones, clothes and shoes etc, It's actually the normal life of a Nigerian girl to dress expensively to impress others . But my mum would always say " It's the basic things I will provide, as for those...when you study hard and succeed you can buy them yourself". Since then I closed that chapter.   


THE TRUTH 001

My Secondary school days. 

I attended Westerville College located at Lagos. When I was in my Junior Secondary Level, I experienced both beautiful and ugly days. I was emotionally bullied. Then I was so thin that I was nick named "Kpankere" -a Yoruba language- meaning "thin cane". I hated it so badly and sometimes I cried. I was 10 then, I was emotionally weak, I honestly hated my body, my personality - everything.

 In class, I couldn't stand up for myself or defend my opinion due to fear of being shut by my friends with the usual phrase "you that you are thin like kpankere". It was so bad that one of my class mates said "you are too thin, I really doubt if you can give birth when you grow, you will just break during labour" I was shattered. Though she was cautioned by a teacher, those words sunk deep into me. I hated appearing in public, I would walk down the streets with my head bowed low". Conclusively, I had low self esteem. It affected my academics but I had to work hard so I don't get bad grades. I would wish for a potion I could drink to make me fat. This continued till when I was 12..

Being emotionally bullied is hardly recognised in an average African home, it is taken lightly. When a child reports to her parents about her experience with emotional bullies they be like "if they insult you, insult your own back". Typical response I got from my mum.  Then I met two friends Eberechi and Ifunanya, They understood me. They encouraged me to be strong and fight back. Till today, I thank God for them . 


6 years now, It has really been God's inner strength in me that kept pushing me to where I am today - confident about my body. One time, I was walking down the streets, a random guy walked up to me and said  "hey, you look good...are you a model?". I replied  "thanks but I'm not". That moment I shoved it off because I thought it was one of those guys "sweet talks" to get a girl's attention. It happened a few times again before I took note.  I was surprised. I never saw the bright side of being slim, I had only concentrated on the bad comments said about my physique. 

I now have a body of a model. Honestly, I never exercised, I just ate right. 

One time, our school - university - had a beauty pageantry. I wasn't interested due to financing. Then I met two guys, Student lawyers. They offered to sponsor me due to my physique and other attributes. But then it was late because the pageantry had started already and registration were over. That wasn't all. A final year beauty queen and model, Chikodili Gift; who was Miss Abass 2015 and currently Miss Edu info 2018, said to me "you have the perfect body and height for modelling...I love your physique". That made my day. I declined every modelling offer because I currently have a lot on my hands, adding modelling to the list would be a distraction. And also, my parents wouldn't support it either.

Right now, I'm loving my body. On this note, I just want you to love who you are, what you do, the beautiful person you've become etc. Because that's the beginning of unleashing the potentials in you. Critics are sure to come, when people criticize, they are actually doing their jobs. Yes, they are. It's your choice  to listen and allow it break you or listen and allow it mould and build you into a more stronger person. Some persons would discourage you listening to others' opinions about you. But the truth be told, it's  difficult to ignore them. Sometimes we even pretend not to listen , but inside of us we do. But when they do criticize, always  look at the bright side of it. That worst business plan might turn you to be the no 1 successful business tycoon on Forbes list, that entrepreneurial initiative turned down might be a million dollar business. Just believe and give it a shot. I was criticised for being too thin -like I created myself, but as I grew, everything came into place. And now, my body is died for. Yours could be killed for.

More of The Truth would be posted...stay in touch.     

             our happiness depends only on you not your money nor possessions but YOU. 

Comments

  1. Loveth Issa baeNovember 19, 2018 at 3:39 AM

    ..its said that beauty is from within.. If you can feel it then you can have it.
    Babe you are awesome and full of great uniqueness..

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    1. Abanobi IfeomaJanuary 23, 2019 at 9:52 AM

      Thanks so much bestie...especially for your support.

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  2. Prince ekeneNovember 20, 2018 at 3:49 AM

    Nice write up,emotional bullying is one of the major factor ravaging our society, and the society is accepting it whole heartly , probably because of our African mentality, am proud that you emphasized on this.

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    1. Abanobi IfeomaJanuary 23, 2019 at 9:54 AM

      Thanks...true talk, Africans really need to step up. My apologies for replying late.

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